Natural Hair

There is this myth that natural hair is easy to maintain, easy to wear, easy to...everything. Ah-uh nothing could be farther from the truth. Last summer I had natural hair for a week and it was an ordeal. I have thick, course hair. My mother started perming my hair in 4th grade because she couldn't take it anymore plus I am tender headed, so imagine managing my natural hair. I don't let anyone touch my hair unless you are braiding it.

So yesterday I decided to leave my hair natural again. Well I tried to perm it but I used mild chemical instead of course so my hair did not take it. I decided to let my hair be.

Honestly it feels good to have natural hair. My head is light and I feel good when the breeze blows through it. With natural hair my accessories are accentuated and I don't get nervous when the wind blows hard or when some roudy kids run towards me or when my friend's little baby pulls on it.

However, natural hair is difficult to maintain. First of all you have to shampoo and condition it every day (speaking for myself) for the comb to pass through it. Drying it is another story. When cold air goes through natural hair, it's very painful when combing, considering how tender headed I am. It's time consuming maintaining natural hair.

I don't have much time to take care of natural hair when I am going to work. I like to wake up, brush my teeth, jump into the shower, dress, do my make up and go to work. Having natural hair to me means waking up earlier than usual. That cannot work because I love my sleep...I love my sleep more than food or anything, that's how bad it is. Story for another time LOL.

My hair looks and feels good right but I can only keep this for 3 or so days.

Loving Your Own Company

It's Saturday, and it's so cold but better than Wednesday, it was ridiculously cold on Wednesday, I almost cancelled my midweek bible study but thank God for coffee. I can't stand cold that's why I THINK I can't live in Europe. Ironically I went to school in New York, upstate for that matter. One of the coldest parts of New York. I lived there for 6 years and I survived so I guess I can survive in Europe but I'd be miserable LOL.

I am glad I went to school in New York, that cold kept me focused and I graduated while some of my friends in other warm states dropped out of school. Because of the cold, I became addicted to coffee. I had to study till late and wake up early so I needed the caffeine to keep me up and going.

Today I am at starbucks. I chose the quiet one. I am lucky to have 2 Starbucks within 5 minutes from my apartment. One is always crowded and the other is not. It's one of those days I just want to be alone. Some people find that odd but I love my alone time, I know how to keep myself company, how to make myself laugh and keep myself entertained.

I don't know if my future spouse will like the idea of me having my alone time. Will I be able to get away from the kids and have a few hours of alone time or will the motherly instincts kick in and keep me around them 24-7? Ah, I will cross that bridge when I get there.

I love starbucks.

Fashion

I love fashion, I love clothes, jewels, accessories, SHOES ...I love looking good. I sometimes think I should have been in the fashion business, dressing people is one of my favorite things to do. I love it when friends ask me to help them pick outfits and accessories.

God commands us not judge one another but I am not sure this applies to fashion. Well, when done with love and good intentions maybe? I am a fashion critic, I mean subconcious fashion critic. I automatically find myself analyzing people's outfits and making alternatives and suggestions...in my head ofcourse (don't like hurting people's feelings LOL). That outfit is better with black shoes or that top doesn't need that belt etc.

When you look good, your confidence is boosted. Nothing beats a well put together outfit and a great smile to top it off. I am one of those people who believe a good outfit opens doors and changes people's attitudes towards you. When you are dressed up, everybody smiles at you, doors are held open for you, I think you can skip lines at the grocery store or wherever and get away with it (never tried this though, I think it's rude but you get my point).

Looking good doesn't mean buying expensive clothes or designer wear. I got my favorite earrings for $1.99, I get lots of compliments when I wear them than any of the others. It's all about how the outfit is put together.

I am going through a shoe phase. I am 5' 10" and yes I wear heels. I love high heels, they make me feel good. I have to do a couple walks with the shoes, around the store before I pick any high heels because some of them can be quite uncomfortable. I have them in all shapes and sizes. I am holding myself from getting some more. My favorite gift to buy friends and family is shoes. You know those gifts you actually feel good after buying, yep!

I would totally volunteer to dress women...and maybe men.

I am back to blogging again...

It's been a year since I blogged. I read some of my old posts and cringed, I deleted them all LOL. Some of the things I wrote were outright stupid, some embarassing...gosh I let people read such stuff about me, yikes!

I have become a very very private person, I find it so hard to share my thoughts and feelings with strangers. I feel more responsible for what I say than I did before. And, I'd rather keep some stuff to myself. Even a simple status message on facebook is so difficult for me to write, I find myself deleting most of them after a few minutes. I'd rather keep it neutral about the weather or some boring stuff like that than talk about myself and my feelings.

Therefore I have a feeling blogging is going to be some ordeal for me, please bear with me. I will keep it rich and positive.